A real shame----on me

It's a shame that one's husband won't stick up for you. My husband has allowed his 2 best friends to call me names (stupid,shut up nobody want to hear you, you don't know). The friend berates me for using the f word but has no problem sneering at me and demanding "get me a fucking beer". I finally told the friend last night that I don't hear him call his other friend's wives "stupid", he professes to be my friend but takes every opportunity to make sure I'm the brunt of his joke. For 25 years, all I have heard from this family is "this our be ourbrother" "this is our second son" "I will do anything for this guy"...most families don't make the wives/husbands of the kids' feel unwelcome, and do all they can to make sure you know you are an intrusion. The friend texted me last night and said I was too emotional. 😀 I responded by saying I wasn't going to fight him for my husband's loyalty or affection. Oh but if you dare to catch him doing something stupid and you point it out, persona non grata for about 2 hours. The group that goes down there and sits on his back porch and drinks themselves into a stupor, all they seem to be able to talk about are 1975 thru 1989. Lord forbid you should be in up a current subject or talk about anything that s current. Plus the people they talk about I don't know and don't really want to meet them. I guess I'm just disappointed in myself for staying married so long to someone who has no feelings/empathy/courtesy(for lack of a better word). So very very disappointed in myself.